I try not to get into arguments between my child and her fiance, but they live in a condo I own, then i’m allowing them to live there rent free, and all I ask is that they keep the condo in nice repair.
When my child called myself and others and she was crying, I thought he may have hurt her.
What she had to tell myself and others wasn’t making myself and others miserable because he hurt her, but because he kicked a hole in the door. I asked why he did such a thing, and she said she locked him out, then this was a stupid thing to do, because if people want in a house, it doesn’t matter what the deterrent, they will enter. I seldom lock my doors because of this reasoning. If they want to rob my house, they will.. It’s bad enough I’ll need to replace whatever they’ve stolen, but I won’t need to do window replacements or door replacements. When she told myself and others she locked the door because she saw him talking to a girl, I told her she was foolish. I figured that having a door replacement done was area of the home’s upkeep and I told her it was her responsibility to have it replaced. She thought I should make it the responsibility of her fiance, despite the fact that she was the a single who moved in first, and he didn’t move in until after she agreed to the rules of living in the house. I wasn’t sure she was going to have the door replacement done, but I’m hoping it teaches her a lesson about taking obligations seriously.